My father passed away at age 37 from brain cancer. His death impacted my views on every aspect of life and radically changed the woman I became.
This was a significant event because racism was alive and well during that time period. I was ostracized, criticized, threatened with death, family and friends disowned me. This radically changed the person i am today.
Learned a lot about relationships, parenting and drug addiction.
Decided that I was not going to progress well in the Army as a female in the career field I was in. I was one of a few women that had been allowed into the Engineer branch to open it up to women. It was a sometimes fun, sometimes painful experience. Breaking ground can sometimes break you for a moment.
My oldest child. Weighed 9 lbs. 2 oz. and 21 inches long. a wonderful and enlightening experience when you realize you are now responsible completely for someone else.
My second marriage.
Birth of my youngest child. Learned how to be a parent based on their personality.
This was the last event to push me into the divorce. Before then i was trying to save my marriage. After the miscarriage, I never wanted to see him again.
Divorce makes you do crazy things. Once i knew that i was going to be a single mother. I made plans to establish myself as an independent woman and no longer need the presence of a man to make my life. This is significant because in building my life, it has irrevocably changed who I am and exposed me to hardships I never had to experience. And my boys were affected too. The impact on them has not been fully unfolded. But for me, I am struggling to have any kind of relationship with a man.
This was the freedom from negativity and all things dark in my life. I was determined to take control of my life and make a better life for me and my kids.
Because of the war and my divorce, I made the decision to end my enlistment on active duty. My Brigade Commander offered me a job as a civilian in the unit and it was good. Met wonderful people that i still keep in contact with today.
The first real sign of maturity and growth. First professionally and second personally. I am finally settling down after running away from problems my whole life. I have decided to meet my problems head on and fight for my rights. Life is good now.
Finally working to attain the professional career that I have always wanted. I am glad I waited in many ways. Now I know what I really want to do for the remainder of my life.