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The initial key to attracting women is not money, cars, big words or an impressive background. The first thing that women pick up on is body language. Yes, that’s right, you need to use your body language to attract women!
Did you know that within seven seconds of your face to face meeting with a women, she would have already over 10 major impressions about you? And did you know that your body language signals and gestures have more to do with these impressions rather than what you say?
It’s true it’s not what you say but rather what your body language says that can often have the lasting impression.
You might even have the best game in the world and be able to get any woman to really like you especially online but if you try to use those same techniques in the real world and didn’t have any confidence like looking her in the eye etc, you will crash and burn. She will not only see right through you but may even start to laugh or simply get up and walk away.
One of the biggest mistakes guys can make is coming across as they are not genuine in what they are saying. The easiest way to pick up on whether somebody actually believes what they are saying shows with their body language. You can have all the confidence in the world, be the best dressed guy in the venue and have the best opening lines, but if your body language does not match what you are saying, you will be thought of as being not a genuine person. If a women thinks you are not genuine, there is no quicker way to get her defenses up.
When it comes to attracting women the communication model is one of the most important things to keep in mind. If you are not familiar with the communication model, here it is.
The Communication Model
To be successful with women something very important to understand is the communication model. This model when understood is the difference that makes a difference with guys, so here it is. The communication model states that when we are communicating 7 % of the communication are the words, 38% is your tonality and 55% is your physiology.
As you can see from the above words are the smallest part of the communication model. If you don’t understand or learn how to use the other 93% you will never increase your success with women. This means that if you don’t learn to “speak” body language, you might be almost as crippled in your communication with women as someone who can’t hear.
When I mention this model to people they are very surprised as we have always been taught that words are the most powerful thing when it comes to communication, in a way they are, if they are delivered correctly and your body language matches what you are saying.
If you didn’t know about the communication model, let’s explore it a bit deeper. You’re going out for a night on the town looking to meet a special someone, let’s start with the way you walk. A woman can tell just by how you walk and carry yourself how you feel about yourself inside. Slouching, and dragging your feet with your head down says you lack confidence and that you are just there to camouflage into the background. Interesting that you have not said anything to anybody but just by the way you are walking will tell everybody in the room what is really going on inside you. Instead walk in with your shoulders back, chin up, great posture, taking large strides.
You will shine and reflect great confidence to everyone around you without even saying a word.
The next very important “spark tactic” is your smile. Nothing says “don’t approach me” like a frown. Women will sense you are an unhappy person and be drawn away from you, so let them see those pearly whites! Make sure you smile when you talk; especially if that is the first time you meet someone. This is the best way to make someone special feel more comfortable plus you will have a better chance of making her want to see you again.
Let’s move onto how to use that strong face of yours. Many men tend to keep their eyes either focused down to the ground, occasionally scanning the room, or continuously scanning the room like they can’t focus on a particular person or object. Both tactics are very awkward.
Instead if you spot a woman of interest, maintain eye contact with her to initiate the spark. When in conversation keep a strong flow of eye contact as this will make the conversation more stimulating and draw the woman more into you. A great tip here if you are a little nervous is to look at the bridge of her nose, this will come across as direct eye contact.
This is a neat little trick that I still use.
Make gestures with open palms, because that is very important to show that all the things you are saying have some meaning and also will make others feel more comfortable around you. Gestures are very important as they give more meaning to all the things that you are saying and also it will show women, with whom you are talking to that you are more confident in all the things that you say.
Last but not least let’s talk about those arms, a very important issue in using body language to attract women. Crossing your arms can be a classic move that can drive women away. It can yield caution to women, showing them that you are closed off or defensive. It can also signal that you are arrogant and uninterested in what’s going on around you. So keep those arms to your side, or busy getting a phone number!
The difference that makes a different between the guys who are constantly dating and guys that might get a couple of dates a year is body language. If you don’t believe me on this the next time you are out have a look around at guys talking to girls, then have a look at their body language. What is it communicating?
What does your body language say about you?
When you walk into a room, what do you think people read from your body language?
Try this out the next time you are with people notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you. Do they appear strong, confident, driven or motivated? Or, do they seem meek, timid, confused, and/or LOST? Can you see a parallel with these ideas and the ideas of being attractive vs. unattractive??
If not, let me spell it out for you:
Guys who have strong, confident body language are attractive
Guys who don’t are unattractive.
Next time you are in a crowded space isolate yourself in a discreet corner and study the posture of other people. You will notice that there are many physical cues that someone is not very confident in themselves. Some of these cues include: Slouched Posture, Slumping Forward, Fidgeting, Timid Sideways Glances, Hesitations and Pauses In Movement
You can spot these things from across the room so you can guarantee that women see these things when displayed right in front of them when you do them. These are called turn offs, rather than turn on’s.
Another great example of how important body language is have a look at somebody your admire when they talk, what are communicating non verbally with their body language?
At Learn To Approach we teach you all the elements of body language attraction, so the next time you are talking to a women you like, you will appear to be confident and in control. Another great point here is if you take what you learn from us and incorporate it in to your day to day life you will not believe the increase in power you will have with your communication.
Remember the words mean nothing without the body language to back it up.
Still not convinced on how important body language is? Did you know recent studies have shown women send out roughly 5 times more body language signals and gestures than males in the same amount of time. How much nonverbal communication are you missing out on by not understanding her body language?
How would you like to have the upper hand by using body language to attract women before speaking with them?
Our coaching products will not only show you how to use body language to attract beautiful women in no time it will teach you how to read her body language.